thank you for the help. the only way i was able to get them all back on was to set each one up "locally" by themselves. Once I tried to connect the parent/child, thats when hell would break loose. They were not recognizing each other. so for now, they are individually running as is.
Once I can get new lights, im gonna scrap these. I have fought with them since the day I got them. not user friendly in my mind. I want one where i turn the lights down with a knob or some type of manual control. easy on, easy off. no app/wi-fi in order to control them.
damn lights get my blood boiling.